In daily life, people often complain that some people do not obey the rules, and teachers often complain that students do not change after repeated teaching. In fact, there are more effective measures than complaining, which can achieve a good educational effect. That is, when people do not obey the rules or behave badly, they can make the people concerned feel painful, pay the necessary price and get personal growth. It is not only minors but also adults who need to grow up.

When I was in the third grade of primary school, I had a Chinese class in the sky. The content of my study was "basic training". The first topic was group words. The two words in the first group were "invite" and "excite". The teacher asked me to answer the first word group. When I stood up, I decided to take a look at the content filled in the textbook on the left. My classmate was a repeater, using last year's textbook with the answers written on it. I took a look at it and answered loudly, "please!" The teacher was very surprised: "what?" The students also roared with laughter, and I found myself answering the wrong way according to the textbook at the same desk. I was so embarrassed. I can't say it's written like this in my deskmate's textbook. If I say that, it will make people laugh even more. Since then, I will never look at other people's answers. Whether it's doing homework or writing answers in exams, I always insist on independent thinking and answering.

When I was a graduate student, I received a notice from my tutor one evening, asking me to go to his home, and I immediately rode there. At the tutor's house, he didn't say a word. The tutor frowned and asked, "did you eat garlic?" At that time, I was extremely embarrassed - I did eat garlic in my meal, and I came to my tutor's house immediately after receiving the notice. Now, the smell of garlic caused my tutor's discomfort, which made me feel very embarrassed. Since then, I have to brush my teeth and gargle immediately after meals, especially when I go out to attend meetings. After breakfast, I must go back to my room to brush my teeth and gargle. Of course, I also see that many participants go to dinner with meeting materials, and they probably won't brush their teeth and gargle after meals.

When my child began to attend a small kindergarten class, there was a problem of kindergarten adaptation, that is, he was unwilling to go to kindergarten every morning. One morning, when we washed his face at home, he didn't cooperate, so we said that he didn't wash his face. It was on the issue of face washing that we compromised. The child said nothing more and went to kindergarten obediently. I said to my life teacher, "my child didn't wash his face. Please wash it for him." The life teacher agreed with a smile. The next day, everything went well. The third day, when I said to my life teacher again, "please help my child wash his face." Unexpectedly, life teacher was not happy: "can't you wash your face at home?" In front of many parents and children, I was disheartened. Life teacher is right, children should wash their faces at home, not always let kindergarten teachers help. From then on, we will try to wash our children's faces at home and send them to kindergarten. At the same time, this incident also let me know that we can't have extra demands on others or give them any trouble.

When my child was in the first grade of junior high school, after the winter vacation, I sent him to school and saw a student busy with homework in the dormitory. As soon as I got home, I saw the message from the head teacher of the parents group: "three students have not finished their winter vacation homework, so they have let their parents take them back! Winter homework is homework, can't start school to school to do. When did the three students finish their winter vacation homework and come back to school Since then, I have never seen the head teacher send such a message in the parent group. The middle school that children read is very good in this city, and almost all senior three students can be admitted to a college.

More than ten years ago, a master of education student chatted with me and said that he was stopped by the traffic police when he was driving by a certain county. He knew that he was speeding and paid a fine of 200 yuan. I asked, "how much does it cost you to drive here from home?" "400 yuan," he said My comment: "the fine is half of the cost of your coming here." He said with a smile, "I will never exceed the speed limit again!"

Now, almost all drivers of motor vehicles will slow down and stop to give way when passing the crosswalk. In a very short time, the driving quality of drivers will be greatly improved. What kind of publicity or education has such a magical effect? In fact, it is very simple, that is, the electronic police capture a 10 second video and four illegal photos, as well as a fine of 50 yuan and 3 points.

People generally have the psychology of losing the precious. Losing face and earning face are not equal in people's mind. The pain of losing face is far greater than the happiness of earning face. Losing 100 yuan and getting 100 yuan are not equal in people's mind. The pain of losing 100 yuan is far greater than the happiness of getting 100 yuan.

Without paying the necessary price, people often don't care about those rules, and education is often weak. It is people's strong psychology of aversion to loss that makes people pay special attention to avoiding loss, and makes people study rules hard and grow up.